Sunday 5 August 2018

12 summer date ideas that will work no matter where you live

Summer is the perfect season for romance. With longer days and hotter nights, it’s only natural for you to want to heat things up with bae (or bae for the night). Instead of the standard dinner and a movie routine, though, why not make the most of the warmer temperatures with one of these memorable summer date ideas that can take place anywhere?
You don’t have to go to an exotic location or tropical island to have the best summer ever. In fact, this list proves you two can fall in love all over again no matter what zip code you’re in. From kickstarting the day with an Instagram-worthy romantic breakfast to bonding at a sporting event, give these easy-to-plan activities a try and see how big of a difference they make in your relationship.

1. Plan a picnic.

The key to doing this right is staying organized and packing finger foods that are easy to eat. In short, don’t worry about cooking up a fancy meal because the beauty of eating outside is how easy it is.

2. Catch some outdoor music.

Whether it’s an all-out music festival or a small, live concert in the park, go ahead and enjoy the sun alongside some tunes. It’ll get cold pretty soon, so do this while you can.

3. Play tourist.

We bet there are hidden gems in your city that you haven’t visited yet, even as a local. Take the weekend and change that by heading to those historical sites or checking out a new art exhibit.

4. Go to a game.

Nothing brings people together like sports…even if you’re rooting for different teams. Tap into the one-of-a-kind camaraderie of a sporting event and boost the fun (and friendly competition!) in your relationship.

5. Book a couple’s massage.

Reset and splurge on a session. Summer is all about relaxing, and this is a fool-proof way to make sure that happens.

6. Leave work early and watch the sunset.

If your office doesn’t do summer Fridays, consider shortening your lunch break to be able to be be by your special someone during the most beautiful time of the day.

7. Try or make a dish you’ve never eaten before.

Be adventurous by grabbing ingredients for a foreign dish and working together to make the recipe, or at least making a reservation at a restaurant you’ve never tried before.

8. Make an elaborate breakfast.

Jump-start the day in the most incredible way with an over-the-top meal for two, and brace yourself for butterflies along the way.

9. Take a hike.

Experiencing nature as one brings a new perspective and can take your relationship to an eye-opening new level.

10. Buy some huge ice cream cones and get all the toppings.

Having fun is the only goal here. Feel free to DIY the moment, too, by picking up some sprinkles, fudge, or whatever else you like.

11. Spread out a blanket and stargaze.

Go a step further and have a star named after your relationship. It may be cheesy, but there’s a reason why it’s a go-to scene in the movies.

12. See the sunrise.

There’s something extra special about starting the day together as a couple. Plus, getting up on the earlier side has been known to reduce stress and it also leaves you with extra time to work out (or just eat an amazing breakfast).

There’s something about kissing that freezes time, even if it’s just for a minute. Whether it’s a quick peck on the cheek or a passionate make-out session with a lover, kissing is an intimate act worth celebrating. And some kisses…well, they just stay with you forever.
I remember my most memorable kiss because it was rather unexpected, even though I’d been hoping for a while that it would happen. I’d been crushing on an older colleague, and we finally went to see a movie one night. Afterwards, we ended up sitting and talking in a local park until the wee hours of the night — so late that a security guard came over and kicked us out! Just as we began walking away, I grabbed his face and pulled him close to me. I’ve never tasted anything quite like that kiss. Whenever I pass that park now, I always think of that moment we shared, when the city paused and all my wildest dreams felt possible.
In honor of International Kissing Day on July 6th, we spoke with 11 women about their most memorable kisses — we hope these stories help conjure up memories of your best smooches.

My eyes remained closed the entire time.

“Long-awaited, wet, hot, with a lot of tongue — I was 16 when I kissed a really good friend I had a crush on. We slept close to each other. At some point, our faces were so close together that I could feel his nose against mine and his breathing. My eyes remained closed the entire time.”
— Rosalina

I asked for consent.

“The first time I went on a date with a woman, I knew I was going to ask to kiss her at the end of the date. We went to two different bars and I am a lightweight, so I was feeling extra smooth. When we left our second bar, we lingered outside for a while. Finally, it was time to part and I asked, ‘May I kiss you?’ I had been asked that many times by many men. I also had not been asked, and kissed, by many men. I felt so powerful being the one to ask for consent before I moved in. I knew she would say yes, but that moment before felt really tender and respectful.”
— Joanna

If all else fails, kiss your pup!

“I was devastated. The boy I loved didn’t love me back. I was crumpled onto the floor, giant, hot tears rolling down my cheeks. Through my teary haze, I saw my dog, Pigeon, stir from his bed and trot over to me. He sat there, calmly, stoically, with so much wisdom in his chocolate pudding-colored eyes. Pigeon proceeded to lick all the tears off my cheeks. And to me, that was the healing, loving kiss my poor broken heart needed most.”
— Susan

I was wearing Alexander Wang.

“It was at an underpass [in] San Francisco’s SOMA district following multiple tall cans of Sapporo, when I used to get drunk on beer. It was exactly midnight on New Year’s Eve, and I swear the world corroborated to make this happen. Street lights felt sultry, January was warm, the kiss was hot, and I was wearing Alexander Wang. It felt like a lucid dream.”
— Rhea

My first kiss! My first love!

“It was the high school dance when I asked my best family friend to be my date. Scandalizing the friend group, we snuck away, holding sweaty palms along the viewpoint in Paradise Cove, Malibu. The sky was so dark and the hedges were almost as soothing as the waves crashing below us. We kissed. It was so wet and sloppy and sweetly awkward. My first kiss! My first love! We’re still friends. When I think of those years, I smile.”
— Phoebe

He was older, sexy, and not boyfriend material.

“For a year after a terrible breakup, I was almost numb to any kind of romantic feelings. Finally, after serious flirting, I took initiative and kissed a friend of a friend very late one warm night at the end of summer. He was older, sexy, and not boyfriend material, but the kiss was sweet and soft, and reminded me that no matter what I had been through, there was still that spark buried somewhere inside me. It was like I had woken up.”
— Vanessa

We ended up in the stairwell together.

“I was at a friend’s July 4th rooftop party and this guy who lived in the building happened to be there. He told me he liked my vibe, and I awkwardly had to eat a hot dog, no bun (thanks, gluten allergy) in front of him. We ended up in the stairwell together and touched each other’s bodies for what felt like an hour before we finally kissed.”
— Felicia

We were leaning into each other very closely.

“A good kiss happened last year during Halloween. I was hanging out at one of my favorite spots with some friends and strangers and decided to let the night unravel since I had no plan. We ended up at one of their houses, drinking and talking for hours until it hit 2 a.m. He and I were the only ones in the basement at this point, and I could feel the anticipation of the kiss. We were leaning into each other very closely and it just happened naturally, smooth and unexpected.”
— Amelia

We both knew that what we felt was something unusual.

“It was just before Christmas in Berlin; that time of year is pretty magical — Christmas markets and gluhwein (German mulled wine) galore. My friend and I went out one night and happened to meet a friendly guy named Uri who I immediately felt chemistry with, despite the fact that he didn’t speak English very well. It was a kind of immediate physical attraction that I had never felt before, with anyone, and that I didn’t even know was possible.
After showing us around to his favorite spots and hanging out with us all night, he walked us to the subway so we could get back to our hostel and catch our flight. It was early morning at this point and snowing, and as we were walking I was trying to put on my mittens and they fell. He playfully picked them up but wouldn’t give them back to me — he asked if he could kiss me first. It was one of the most sensual kisses I’ve ever experienced, fully bundled up on the streets of Friedrichshain. I think it may have been the sense of urgency — we both knew that what we felt was something unusual, and also that we would probably never see each other again. I don’t even know his last name but I’ll never forget that kiss.”
— Anna

It felt like a movie scene.

“My most memorable kiss was when I was 22. He was 29. I told him I liked him. He didn’t know what to do or say. We were in his room with the lights off as the street lights came in through his windows. It felt like a movie scene, really, but maybe that’s just my mind. He looked at me and kissed me. It was memorable because it felt honest and sweet. I felt connected to him.”
— Paola

I remember stretching up on my tip toes to kiss him.

“I was 17 and we were working at a summer camp. We’d gone to the same camp together when we were kids but hadn’t seen each other since, and there was major sexual tension between us as soon as we were back in the same room.
One afternoon, I was taking a group of kids upstairs for art class and he came with me; at that point we’d been low-key flirting for a week or two but hadn’t been alone together. As the last kid filed into the art studio I turned around to wave goodbye to him and he grabbed my hand and pulled me in. It was scandalous because a) we were at work and b) his two younger sisters were in the next room.
I remember stretching up on my tip toes to kiss him — I’m tall, but he was way taller. My heart was pounding, and I was warm from head to toe. His lips were so soft. I’ll never forget how much my legs shook as I pulled away and walked into the art studio.”

Friday 3 August 2018

7 Things To Do After Sex To Keep Your Vagina Happy There’s more to it than just peeing

You love sex...but your vagina? Not so much. UTIs, vaginal irritation, the works.
The good news is there are some pretty simple things to do after sex to keep your vagina and your libido equally happy.
Try a few of these after your next O.

1. PEE AFTER SEX IF YOU’RE PRONE TO UTIS

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Even if nature doesn’t call after sex, women who suffer from regular UTIs should use the bathroom, recommends Alyssa Dweck, M.D., an ob-gyn from Westchester, N.Y., and author of The Complete A to Z for Your V. “When you have intercourse, bacteria from the rectum—which is in very close proximity to the urethra and the vagina—can get close to the urethra and can cause an infection, especially in women who are prone to UTIs," says Dweck. "The urine washes out the bacteria that are mechanically present at the end of the urethra."

2. POP A CRANBERRY SUPPLEMENT

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Here’s another one for women who tend to come down with a UTI after every sex sesh. (So. Annoying.) A once-a-day cranberry concentrate, in the form of a cranberry pill or a gummy available over the counter, may help prevent UTIs, says Dweck. But she warns against downing sugary cranberry cocktail juices.

3. WIPE DOWN

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If lube, saliva, you name it, has you feeling less-than-fresh down there after sex, consider doing a quickie wipe down. "Lube and bacteria from the fingers, mouth, and rectum can increase your chance of developing a yeast or bacterial infection," saysSherry Ross, M.D., ob-gyn and women's health expert in Santa Monica, California.
She recommends using a non-fragrant soap around your lady parts after sex. Simply take a warm washcloth and gently dab your vagina with soap and water (or just warm water), moving from front to back. Skip your interiors, though: The vagina has its own internal wash cycle that keeps it clean and balanced, she adds. In other words, no douches allowed.
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4. SOAK IN THE BATHTUB

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Feel like the pampered sex queen you are by treating yourself to a nice, post-sex soak. Pro tip: Consider adding extra virgin coconut oil to the warm bath to help hydrate the skin of the outer vagina and sooth any vaginal swelling or irritation that occurs after doing the deed, says Ross. While it's not a hygiene must, this pleasant ritual may help reduce your risk of infection, she says.
But don’t go overboard on the bath oils, flowery bubble potions, and scented balms, says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., clinical professor in the department of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive sciences at Yale School of Medicine. Too much can be irritating to the vagina. Minkin says she always see an uptick in irritation related to bath products after the holiday season when patients are using gifts they received.

5. GO COMMANDO

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Once you're so fresh and so clean, ward off UTIs and other infections by wearing cotton underwear and loose-fitting PJs to keep your privates dry—or better yet, go commando for optimum air circulation. At the very least, avoid nylon underwear and tight-fitting sleepwear, which can trap moisture and help bacteria grow, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases.

6. SIP SOME WATER

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If you just got super sweaty between the sheets (get it, girl) you may want to consider sipping some H2O, says Nicole Scott, M.D., ob-gyn at Indiana University Health. Because BTW, dehydration affects your entire body—including your vagina. (Feeling like sandpaper down there might put a damper on round two.) Plus, staying hydrated can help flush pesky UTI-causing bacteria from your bladder.

7. EAT PROBIOTIC-RICH FOODS

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Post-sex snacks are the best, so reach for something that will keep you vagina happy while you're at it. "Yogurt, kimchi, kombucha, and other fermented foods have the same good bacteria that are found in the vagina," says Kelly Kasper, M.D., ob-gyn at Indiana University Health. Getting into the habit of snacking on these foods after sex can help to replenish the body's good bacteria, helping to decrease your risk of a yeast infection.
After all, you don't want anything holding you back from your next hot romp.

Methods\ DATING ONLINE


Online dating is really popular. Using the internet is really popular. A survey conducted in 2013 found that 77% of people considered it “very important” to have their smartphones with them at all times. With the rise and rise of apps like Tinder (and the various copycat models) who could blame them.  If you want to think about dating as a numbers game (and apparently many people do), you could probably swipe left/right between 10 – 100 times in the span of time that it would take you to interact with one potential date in ‘real-life’.
With the popularity of sites like eHarmony, match.com, OKcupid  and literally thousands of similar others, the stigma of online dating has diminished considerably in the last decade. More and more of us insist on outsourcing our love-lives to spreadsheets and algorithms. According to the Pew Research Center, the overwhelming majority of Americans suggest that online dating is a good way to meet people. Interestingly, more than 15% of adults say that they have used either mobile dating apps or an online dating site at least once in the past. Online dating services are now the second most popular way to meet a partner.
The popularity of online dating is being driven by several things but a major factor is time. Online dating presents an effective solution to a serious problem.
Browsing profiles isn’t nearly as time-consuming (or daunting) as mixing with people in a social context. Statistics suggest that about 1 in 5 relationships begin online nowadays. It’s estimated that by 2040, 70% of us will have met our significant other online.
The problem with a lot of online dating applications is that they don’t really work. Many are just ‘fad’ applications that squeeze money from punters with no intention of matching you with a suitable partner. Before you throw caution to the wind and empty your wallet into the pockets of an online app with the reckless abandon of a love-struck teenager, there are a few things you should know.

1. People lie on their online dating profiles

Ok this is hardly an earth-shattering revelation. Well duh, people want to be appealing. Most people probably wouldn’t be surprised to learn that it’s more common for people to lie in their online profile than be completely honest.
A study of over 1,000 online daters in the US and UK conducted by global research agency OpinionMatters founds some very interesting statistics. A total of 53% of US participants admitted to having lied in their online dating profile. Women apparently lied more than men, with the most common dishonesties being about looks. Over 20% of women posted photos of their younger selves. But men were only marginally better. Their most common lies revolved around their financial situation, specifically, about having a better job (financially) than they actually do. More than 40% of men indicated that they did this, but the tactic was also employed by nearly a third of women.
While dishonesty was slightly less prevalent among the British sample, 44% did admit to lying in their online profile. In both the US and UK samples, dishonesty declined with age. Maybe older people are just more interested in projecting their real self, rather than an imagined or ideal version.

2. Looking for a relationship? That must mean all you want is sex

One of the big problems with online dating for women is that, although there are genuine relationship-seeking men on the sites, there are also plenty of guys on there simply looking for sex. While most people would agree that on average men are more eager for sex than women, it seems that many men make the assumption that if a woman has an online dating presence, she’s interested in sleeping with relative strangers. Online dating does represent the convenience of being able to meet others that you possibly never would have otherwise, but women should be aware that they probably will receive rude/disgusting messages from horny guys, sexual propositions/requests, dick-pics, and a lot of creepy vibes.

3. Negotiating the scam-ternet

Let’s be honest, the internet is really just a super elaborate and sophisticated farce designed to distract you from having your pockets picked by greasy conmen in cheap suits, right? Not quite, but it is full of unscrupulous vendors looking to separate you from your money by whatever means possible (in other news, have you heard about the secret to getting killer abs in less than 7 minutes using this 1 weird trick…?).
Scams have been around as long as the internet (possibly even before…). Of course there are pitfalls and tripwires in every sphere of life, but this may be particularly true in the context of online dating. There are literally hundreds (if not thousands) of online scams, and I’m not going to run through any in detail here, but do some research before you go giving your bank details to ‘Nigerian princes’ promising ‘fun moments’. As a matter of fact, you should probably be wary of any person, group or entity asking for any kind of financial or personal information. It might even be advisable to follow these general guidelines:
NEVER give out your home phone, address or your personal email address, unless you absolutely trust the recipient.
Drive yourself to the date (your date doesn’t need to know where you live), keep an eye on your drink/food (…), pay half of the bill (you don’t need your date having expectations of repayment)
Of course there are plenty more do’s and do not’s of online dating but I guess the most important thing here is to use your common sense. If something feels off, trust your got. You don’t necessarily have to develop a ‘trust no-one and sleep with 1 eye open’ approach to online dating, but it is probably worthwhile having a healthy degree of skepticism in general.

4. Relationships don’t last

Never mind the fact that more than one-third of all people who use online dating sites have never actually gone on a date with someone they met online, those that somehow do manage to find someone else they are willing to marry AND who is willing to marry them (a vanishingly tiny subset of online daters) face an uphill battle. According to research conducted at Michigan State University, relationships that start out online are 28% more likely to break down in their first year, than relationships where the couples first met face-to-face. And it gets worse. Couples who met online are nearly 3 times as likely to get divorced as couples that met face-to-face.
However, it isn’t all misery and woe. While the overwhelming majority of romantic relationships still begin offline, around 5% of Americans that are currently in either a committed relationship or marriage, suggest that they did in fact meet their significant other online.

5. It makes you picky and judgmental

It’s very easy to send one course back (or even one after another, after another, after another) when the menu is overflowing with other potential courses. The US Association of Psychological Science found that reviewing multiple candidates causes people to be more judgmental, and inclined to dismiss a not-quite-perfect candidate than they otherwise would be in a face-to-face meeting.